Hiperactivity is one of the terms parents hear more easily and oftenly when they search for medical advice or psychological councelling, in order to find out what to do with a child who seems to be restless and out of control. Hyperactivity has become a label to calm down parents´and teachers´anxiety, who are desperately looking for an answer to how to deal with this child who will not sit or keep still, sometimes mouthy and unable to submit to any rules.
Saying that a child is hyperactive has turned into a bit of a scapegoat: when a child will not stop running around, he is said to be hyperactive, if the child touches everything he or she is said to be hyperactive, as well as when giving rude replies to grown-ups, then he or she is again said to be hyperactive. As if it was a virus that one can catch and can do nothing about, but waiting for the symptoms to bring about a remission, with the help of some antibiotics ,so the home and school environment resigned themselves and it is usual to hear parents explaining his child´s behaviour by saying he is hyperactive.
When a child is growing up it always implies a certain amount of uncertainty for parents and educators. The term hyperactive is given to parents as if it was a kind of a magical recipe which explains all his or her child´s behaviour
Some months ago the newspapers published the prescription of anxiolytics and antidepressants is being applied to children´s diagnosed as hyperactive, at earlier ages each time. We should bear in mind that a child ,who is unable to read, draw or have mates because he can not sit for longer than five minutes or can not tolerate a thing, suffers from something but it is not medication what may allow him to build himself up as a wishing subject, able to produce readings , games and friendships. Moreover, it might also occur the disorder is treated as something genetic and by these means a situation which may be solved is transformed into a chronic disease.
The figure of the father plays an important role in the human development and we should remember having a father is related to the presence of a law rather than of a man. Therefore it is not about having a man in the family but the mother, and that is the person in charge of the child´s care, having other interess apart from her infant.
When a child appears to be excessively nervous it is quite common to find a mother who is completely thrown into his son´s or daughter´s education and will not even allow the father to play a role as such.
This fact does not occur on a conscious level but it is subjected to unconscious processes. The step from animality to humanity is given by renouncing to have parents as sexual objects. There is a tendency to think children lack sexuality but in fact, the setting-up of human sexuality goes through a first flowering during early childhood, followed by a latency period and it rises again at adolescence together with the sexual gonad maturing. The mother, that is to say the person who looks after the infant, is the first erotic object and the child believes she is omnipotent and only loves him, until the father´s presence makes him realize there are others in the world. On this point it might be helpful to underline a father is the mother´s love towards something else apart from bringing up her child.
It is a necessary disappointment for the infant to confront that his or her mother does not only love him or her but it will no take place if every single time the child has night fear is sent to sleep with the parents or all activities the mother does, such as working, learning languages etc, are given up in order to restrict to bringing up her baby.
A home without limits, where no doors are ever closed nor is ti tolerated a certain amount of independence, keeps the child overexcited.
The human being can not achieve immortality but to become a mortal . We are made of words; it is a sentence that makes us fall ill and it will be through words as we will build up a human life.
Hyperactivity is a disorder which quite often banish when parents attend analysis sessions and are able to develop their desire.